So “The Flying Pho” and I have had the talk and and he wants to be official, however there is one problem and I’m not sure if it’s completely absurd or a legitimate concern, given my Asian Fixation and all… here goes,
He’s not really “Asian” enough for me…
Feel free to roll your eyes at this point.
Ok so the lowdown on “The Flying Pho”, he moved here from Vietnam with his parents when he was about 3, he was a refugee and came from nothing. He grew up 5 minutes away from Cabramatta and was the typical Asian kid at school but then he hit uni and became “white washed”, his parents worked hard and did all the right things to put him through flight school and he is now a successful first officer for an airline but there is something bothering me….
So I’m pretty damn proud of myself for snagging a hot Vietnamese guy, I have to admit as far as pure looks go I always seem to go weak at the knees for a Vietnamese guy but my knowledge of Vietnamese culture is based on movies. Movies like Full Metal Jacket, Tropic Thunder and that bit in Forrest Gump where he saves bubba and gets shot in the buttocks mixed with a few trips to those amazing Vietnamese roll shops. So before I crack the ten dollar sucky sucky, love you long time jokes, I get the feeling that’s where ”The Flying Phos” knowledge of Vietnamese “culture” ends too.
He speaks Vietnamese but can’t read it and has only ever dated one mixed Asian girl before, he has actually told me he doesn’t find Asian women attractive, I’ve witnessed this first hand when seeing gorgeous Asian women walk by us and he doesn’t seem to notice but if a hotter, skinner, taller version of me walks by he can barely keep his tongue in his mouth.
He isn’t a mummy’s boy, can grow a 5 o’clock shadow by 3pm, owns his own home, doesn’t live off Asian food and wouldn’t know k pop if it bit him in the (very cute little) ass. He even has the whitest profession on the planet – A Pilot! (his words, not mine) and speaking to him on the phone, you would expect Crocodile Dundee to be on the other end ready to show you his knife.
The other slight issue is he is a small guy, not “K-Doc” small but he’s a few centimeters taller than me and although he works out and has a great body… it’s pretty obvious the guy struggles to keep on weight. I know this is so not the right discussion to have here but I think I have to admit I find it hard to date guys that aren’t taller and bigger than me. I never thought it would bother me as much as it has but I think my experiences with “K-Doc” and now “The Flying Pho” have sealed the deal for me – I need a big, strong Asian man (I know the pool is getting smaller and smaller)
Maybe I’m talking total rubbish at 2:30am, maybe I’m just terrified because he actually really likes me, I really like him and this could possibly work. Maybe I just don’t have a damn clue what I want and I insist on self-sabotaging every guy that comes my way.
I’ve often been asked if its Asian culture or Asian men I find more attractive and I’ve always insisted it’s the men for the most part but I am starting to see there are certain traits more common in Asian men that are more important to me then I first thought and I’m starting to wonder if I will ever be able to find the right balance of what I want.
They are either too Asian or too white washed…